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Boost Your Blowjob Game With Butt Play

Looking for new ways to pleasure your penis-owning partner during oral sex? Perhaps it’s time to expand the area you’re stimulating while you’re going down. Tucked just below your partner’s pleasure bits is a potentially unexplored source of great arousal and possibly even new types of orgasms that will take your blow job game to the next level

I’m talking, of course, about introducing butt play (also known as anal play) to your blowjob game. Despite what some may think, anal play is quite enjoyable and even orgasmic for many people with a penis.

Why Does Anal Play Feel So Good?

While some people are dubious that anal stimulation is enjoyable, history and anatomy suggest otherwise. Artwork dating as far back as 4,000 years ago depicts anal sex. The act has almost certainly been practiced throughout human history and is still enjoyed by many today.

Why? Because despite popular portrayals of anal, the nerves of the anus and prostate are actually quite receptive to pleasure:

  • The anus is packed with nerve endings. Even non-penetrative rubbing of this area can be quite arousing. While the sphincter muscles just behind the anus can tighten and create resistance to penetration, it is possible to relax these muscles and enjoy the stimulation of an inserted body part or toy.
  • Most penis owners also have a prostate. This is located inside the rectum about an inch to an inch-and-a-half beyond the anus. The prostate is a gland that helps produce the fluid in semen. It’s also mind-blowingly enjoyable to have pressed, rubbed, or vibrated.

Finally, anal play can feel good for psychological reasons. For many, anal stimulation is considered taboo—something naughty that people shouldn’t do. Logically, there’s nothing wrong with anal sex or anal play while performing oral. Socially, however, it can be arousing to “go against the grain” and do something that feels like your dirty little secret.

How to Introduce Butt Play to Your Blowjob Game

So, you’ve put some thought into and decided that you’re ready to introduce the wonders of anal pleasure to you blowjob game. That’s great! First, there are a few very important things to consider:

  1. Consent. Before you go slipping a finger into your partner’s butt during your next blowjob, stop and ask if this is something they’re interested in. Personal preferences always come before any potential physical pleasure. Consent is sexy!
  1. Hygiene. One additional reason why consent is important is that anal play is safer when your partner’s anus is clean. Asking gives them time to prepare. A shower with attentive washing using soap and water should do the trick. Some people also appreciate drugstore anal rinses (sometimes marketed as enemas).
  1. Comfort. To avoid discomfort, trim your nails or put cotton balls under them and wear disposable gloves before using your hands to play with your partner’s anus. And, for the love of pleasure, please use lube! Silicone ones are best as long as you’re not using silicone toys without condoms.

Once you’ve got those things covered, you’re ready to start exploring anal pleasure with your partner. Check in and communicate along the way as you try some of the ideas below, or whatever others come to you:

External Play

Whether penetration is outside your partner’s comfort zone or you’re just looking to get warmed up, external anal play is quite arousing! Run a lubed finger around the ring of the anus as you go down on your partner, or rub the length of your thumb and forefinger up and down along it. Consider using a vibrating toy to press against this part of your partner’s body and ask how it makes them feel.

Penetration Play

Penetration play is a lot of fun when both partners are relaxed and enthusiastic about what’s going on. Try pressing a lubed finger against your partner’s anus. If you feel resistance, check in with them to make sure they’re at ease, and encourage them to “bear down” as if having a bowel movement. This helps relieve the sphincter muscles and make entry possible.

Once your finger is in, gently move it in and out. Matching the rhythm of your fellatio is often quite enjoyable for the receiving partner. If your prostate-owning partner is lying on their back, curve your finger upward and apply light pressure while your finger is an inch or two inside of them. Explore and see if you can find their prostate, a rounded bulb of tissue. Ask your partner whether pressing or rubbing this is enjoyable.

Anal Toys

Anal toys bring a whole new layer of fun to you blowjob game. From external vibrators to butt plugs that can be left in while you go to town when going down, the added stimulation of anal toys makes this kind of play especially erotic. Using toys externally or for penetration during oral sex also reduces the amount of multitasking you’re doing. Some even make it easier to stimulate the prostate—a win for everyone involved.

If possible, try using condoms on anal toys since they can be hard to truly deep clean. If that isn’t possible or desired, make sure the toy is reserved for anal play only. If you or another partner who may use the toy has a vagina, it’s important to note that toys, fingers, and other body parts and objects shouldn’t go from the anus to the vagina without thorough cleaning to avoid bacterial infection.

Analingus

Analingus, also called rimming, is anything that involves putting parts of your mouth on your partner’s anus (or vice versa—why not?!). Analingus is a little riskier than anal stimulation using hands or toys in that there’s an increased chance of ingesting digestive bacteria or transmitting STIs. However, many people find the pleasure of analingus to outweigh the risk, or reduce risk by using barriers like dental dams.

Final Thoughts on Fun, Safe Butt Play During Oral Sex

There are are many ways to introduce anal play to your blowjobs; these ideas are just the beginning. As you explore and discover different paths to anal pleasure, remember to check in often with your partner and keep hygiene in mind. Finally, don’t forget to have fun! I’m sure you’ll find lots of new pleasures on this journey.

Author: Shannon Burton

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