Looking for new ways to pleasure your penis-owning partner during oral sex? Then it is time to expand the area you’re stimulating while you’re going down. Tucked just below your partner’s pleasure bits is a potentially unexplored source of great arousal and possibly even new types of orgasms that will take your blow job game to the next level.
I’m talking, of course, about introducing butt play (also known as anal play) to your blowjob game. Despite what some may think, anal play is hugely enjoyable and even orgasmic for many people with a penis. If you are thinking, nope, no one is going near my bum hole. Then this post is definitely for you. Just be open to the idea for a moment and read on.
If you are new to anal play and wanting to up your blow job game but not sure how to introduce it to your partner then we are here for you too, with all the tips and tricks you need to explore this sexy new play with your partner.
While some people are dubious that anal stimulation is enjoyable, history and anatomy suggest otherwise. Artwork dating as far back as 4,000 years ago depicts anal sex. The act has almost certainly been practised throughout human history and is still enjoyed by many today but if one of those people are not you, then read on.
Why? Because despite popular portrayals of anal, the nerves of the anus and prostate are very receptive to pleasure:
Finally, anal play can feel good for psychological reasons. For many, anal stimulation is considered taboo—something naughty that people shouldn’t do. Logically, there’s nothing wrong with anal sex or anal play while performing oral. Socially, however, it can be arousing to “go against the grain” and do something that feels like your dirty little secret.
So, you’ve put some thought into and decided that you’re ready to introduce the wonders of anal pleasure to you blowjob game. That’s great! First, there are a few very important things to consider:
Once you’ve got those things covered, you’re ready to start exploring anal pleasure with your partner. Check in and communicate along the way as you try some of the ideas below, or whatever others come to you:
Whether penetration is outside your partner’s comfort zone or you’re just looking to get warmed up, external anal play is quite arousing! Run a lubed finger around the ring of the anus as you go down on your partner, or rub the length of your thumb and forefinger up and down along it. Consider using a vibrating toy to press against this part of your partner’s body and ask how it makes them feel.
Penetration play is a lot of fun when both partners are relaxed and enthusiastic about what’s going on. Try pressing a lubed finger against your partner’s anus. If you feel resistance, check in with them to make sure they’re at ease, and encourage them to “bear down” as if having a bowel movement. This helps relieve the sphincter muscles and make entry possible.
Once your finger is in, gently move it in and out. Matching the rhythm of your fellatio is often quite enjoyable for the receiving partner. If your prostate-owning partner is lying on their back, curve your finger upward and apply light pressure while your finger is an inch or two inside of them. Explore and see if you can find their prostate, a rounded bulb of tissue. Ask your partner whether pressing or rubbing this is enjoyable.
Anal toys bring a whole new layer of fun to you blowjob game. From external vibrators to butt plugs that can be left in while you go to town when going down, the added stimulation of anal toys makes this kind of play especially erotic. Using toys externally or for penetration during oral sex also reduces the amount of multitasking you’re doing. Some even make it easier to stimulate the prostate—a win for everyone involved.
If possible, try using condoms on anal toys since they can be hard to truly deep clean. If that isn’t possible or desired, make sure the toy is reserved for anal play only. If you or another partner who may use the toy has a vagina, it’s important to note that toys, fingers, and other body parts and objects shouldn’t go from the anus to the vagina without thorough cleaning to avoid bacterial infection.
Analingus, also called rimming, is anything that involves putting parts of your mouth on your partner’s anus (or vice versa—why not?!). Analingus is a little riskier than anal stimulation using hands or toys in that there’s an increased chance of ingesting digestive bacteria or transmitting STIs. However, many people find the pleasure of analingus to outweigh the risk, or reduce risk by using barriers like dental dams.
There are are many ways to introduce anal play to your blowjobs; these ideas are just the beginning. As you explore and discover different paths to anal pleasure, remember to check in often with your partner and keep hygiene in mind. Finally, don’t forget to have fun! I’m sure you’ll find lots of new pleasures on this journey.
Author: Shannon Burton
Shannon (they/she) is a sex coach and content writer residing in New Orleans.
