Beginner to Pro: Everything You Need to Know About Giving Blow Jobs
Giving your partner a really great blow job should be a wonderful thing for you both. Often oral sex happens as part of other sexual activity, which is fabulous, but making it the main event can be powerful, sexy, and unforgettable. Do it right, and the penis owner in your life will be smiling from ear to ear. But how do you get sucking dick right?
TL;DR (for when you just want the essentials):
If you’re short on time and want the quick version: get comfortable, build up slowly, use your hands as well as your mouth (and maybe toys), don’t forget balls and perineum, stay enthusiastic and communicative, and make the finish work for you both, whether that’s spit, swallow, or all over your tits.
Assume the Best Blow Job Position
Comfort matters for both of you. But yours is the most important factor in making sure you suck good rather than just suck. If you’re uncomfortable, you’ll fidget, lose focus, and your mouth won’t stay in the moment.
Pay attention to what they like:
- If they prefer being more dominant, have them stand or sit while you kneel.
- If they like you in charge, try them lying down while you sit over them.
Experiment. Use a cushion under your knees if you need it. The more comfortable you are, the better the blow job will be.
Work Up to It
A blow job shouldn’t feel like a job. It’s pleasure for both of you. Don’t dive straight in just to “get it done.” Build up anticipation, just like with any kind of sex. Start with kissing, undressing, and whispering something hot in their ear about how much you want to taste them.
Once their clothes are off, take your time. Kiss and touch their stomach, nipples, thighs, and buttocks before moving to gentle licks. Slowly take them into your mouth, bit by bit. Don’t rush, enjoy the whole experience.
Use More Than Just Your Mouth
The best blow jobs aren’t only about sucking and licking. Your hands, and even toys, can make it better. Start with your hand to stroke them, then alternate between mouth and hand. This helps with jaw ache, switches up sensation, and even lets you play with edging if that’s their thing. Just remember, not everyone enjoys that, so communication matters.
Toys can change the game. Many penis owners love a vibrator on their balls, thighs, shaft, or the sensitive underside of the head. Mixing mouth with a toy can be mind-blowing. Or try our Off Beat penis masturbator. Use it around the base and shaft while your mouth works the head. That combo? Unforgettable.
Great Blow Jobs Are About More Than Just the Penis
Their dick isn’t the only part that deserves attention. The balls are incredibly sensitive. Licking, sucking, or massaging them adds another level of pleasure. Don’t ignore them. And don’t forget the perineum (the skin between balls and anus). A wet lick or finger there while sucking can make them moan and buck in pure bliss.
If they’re into it, anal play can be added too. But never surprise someone with it. Talk first. If they’re game, fingers or a butt plug plus a generous amount of lube can create incredible sensations while you focus on their cock.
Communication and Enthusiasm
The best sex happens when you communicate. Ask if it feels good. Watch their body language. Learn how they like to be touched.
And just as important, enjoy it. Enthusiasm is sexy. If they sense you’re not into it, it kills the vibe. But if they see you turned on by their pleasure, it amplifies everything. Use eye contact. Talk. Tell them how good they taste, how horny their moans make you, or how much you love bringing them to orgasm.
The Big Finish
Spit or swallow? Totally up to you. A great blow job doesn’t require a mouthful of cum. The key is to reframe it. If swallowing isn’t for you, direct it elsewhere. Tell them how much you love it when they come on your tits or how sexy it is to watch them ejaculate. Turning “don’t come in my mouth” into “come all over me” keeps the moment hot and positive.
Final Thoughts
Giving a blow job isn’t about ticking boxes or performing perfectly. It’s about connection, curiosity, and pleasure. Don’t be shy about saying what feels good for you, or asking what feels amazing for them. The best experiences happen when you both relax, laugh, explore, and enjoy it together.
Try new things, talk to your partner, and let go of the pressure to “get it right.” Every body is different, every mouth is different, and every experience can be fun in its own way. Whether you’re a beginner or a pro, what matters most is that you both walk away smiling, turned on, and a little bit closer.