Pegging 101: A Cheeky Dad’s Friendly Guide to Strap-On Fun
A quick word before we dive in
Ever wondered what the big deal is about pegging but felt too awkward to ask? You’re not alone. Plenty of curious folks look up “how to use a butt plug” in secret, then shut the tab faster than their kids can shout, “Dad, where’s my football?” This post breaks it all down in clear, no-judgement language so you can decide if pegging deserves a spot on your “things to try one lazy Sunday” list.
What exactly is pegging?
Pegging is a form of anal play where one partner wears a strap-on dildo and penetrates the other partner’s anus. Many men find it exciting because the motion of the toy can massage the prostate, a walnut-sized pleasure powerhouse sometimes called the “P-spot.” Sensitive nerve endings around the anus add extra good vibes, regardless of gender.
Why people rave about it
- Prostate bliss: When stimulated, the prostate can intensify climax or even spark hands-free orgasms.
- New sensations: The anus feels different from any other body part, and variety keeps solo or partner play exciting.
- Role play & power flips: Swapping the traditional “who penetrates whom” script can be hot, funny or liberating (sometimes all three at once).
How does pegging actually work?
Gear check
- Harness + dildo: A harness holds the toy in place so the giver’s hands stay free.
- Lube… then more lube: Anal tissue doesn’t self-lubricate. The NHS notes that plenty of water-based lube reduces friction, helps prevent tiny tears and lowers the chance of a condom splitting.
- Condoms (yes, even on toys): Condoms keep things sanitary if partners swap roles or share toys, and they make cleanup a breeze.
Step-by-step basics
- Warm up first: Fingers, slim plugs or external massage signal the body to relax.
- Start small & go slow: Pass the wheel to the receiver; they set the pace and decide how deep the ride goes.
- Communicate: Check-ins like “How’s that?” or a thumbs-up/thumbs-down system keep the vibe playful and safe.
- Aftercare: Grab some water, clean up, and check in with each other so everyone leaves the session feeling good.
Myth-busting corner
| Myth | Reality |
|---|---|
| “Pegging hurts.” | Discomfort usually means not enough lube, a too-big toy or rushing. Take it slo use lots of lube, build up to bigger toys and pain should turn into pleasure. |
| “It’s only for gay men.” | Anyone with a butt and curiosity can enjoy pegging. Orientation doesn’t dictate what feels good. |
| “It makes you less ‘manly.’” | Exploring pleasure has zero effect on masculinity. Confidence in your own body is pretty manly, actually. |
Safety first
- Use plenty of water-based to reduce friction.
- Choose toys with a flared base so nothing disappears up the tunnel.
- Slip on a fresh condom if you switch from anal to any other orifice to avoid spreading bacteria, a tip echoed by Brook.
- Listen to your body: Sharp pain, bleeding or lingering soreness is a cue to stop and chat with your partner or with a healthcare professional if the discomfort continues.
Toy picks for pegging beginners
All handmade in body-safe silicone by Godemiche:
- The Peg: A slim starter size that pairs well with most harnesses (great for first-timers and inspired by a finger).
- The Ambit or The Morpheus : Curved just right to nudge the prostate while still beginner-friendly.
- Adam: A realistic shape for those ready to level up in length and girth.
Explore the full strap-on collection (colours, squish levels and harness bundles) on the Godemiche website.
Quick FAQs
Do I need to douche?
A quick shower and a thorough wipe are usually all you need before pegging. If you want that extra-fresh feeling, an anal douche can offer a deeper clean, but treat it as an occasional step instead of a weekly routine. Over-doing it can leave your insides feeling dry and cranky, which is the opposite of fun.
Can I use numbing creams?
Skip them. Pain is your body’s safety signal; numbing it could lead to injury.
What positions work best?
Doggy, spooning or the receiver on top let the penetrated partner control depth. Experiment to see which angle hits the sweet spot.
Wrap-up: Your turn
With lube, patience and open communication, pegging can shift from “Hmm, maybe?” to “Why did we wait so long?” Remember that pleasure is personal. Take what works, leave what doesn’t and keep the conversation flowing.
Got questions or favourite positions? Drop them in the comments and share the learning. Until next time, stay curious and play safe.
For more on safer sex practices, check resources from Brook and the NHS.
