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As soon as you mention BDSM words such as ‘extreme’ and ‘brutal’ are bandied about but it doesn’t have to all be corporal punishment and intense limit pushing experiences. It can be something that is a softer engagement of all the senses so let Victoria Blisse introduce us to the idea of sensation play and the joy of sensual BDSM.

What does sensual mean?

When something is described as sensual, it’s something that engages the senses in a physical and very often sexual way. 

How does that fit into BDSM?

It could be said that everything we do in BDSM is sensual because it uses the senses in ways that provoke pleasure, even when that’s pain or depriving a person of one of those senses such as in bondage or when you blindfold a submissive partner.

Even the most extreme of scenes, involving intense beatings or harsh predicament bondage plays with sensual elements. How the cat of nine tails stings against the skin or how the anal hook pulls on the rope tied into hair are both examples of extreme sensation caused in a BDSM scene. However, sometimes you don’t want to test such limits. Sometimes you might just want to play with sensation for arousal. Maybe the sub isn’t into pain or maybe you just want to try something softer. Your BDSM scene can be as soft or hard as you like.

What is sensation play?

Any activity that focuses on the senses (all or one at a time) is sensation play. It’s seen as a softer kind of play and the aim is often to relax and arouse the body but it can be used in both sexual and non-sexual play.

For example:

  • Massage
  • Food play
  • Bondage

In any form of kink play it’s important to set your boundaries and limits. Agree on safe words and actions so that all people involved can bring things to a halt at any time and for any reason. It doesn’t matter if you’re just doing something soft and gentle or it’s just a bit of fun. Always know your limits and make sure who you are playing with knows them too especially if there’s any element of Dominance and submission in your scene.

Sensational examples

A massage can engage many of the senses. Use a scented oil to add a relaxing or stimulating scent to your play. Whisper along, describing what your hands are doing or what you’d like to do to the body part you’re feeling to engage the aural too.  You can use more than your hand as well. Try including the occasional scratching of nails to contrast against the softness. Items such as pin-wheels can add a prickly dimension if someone wants a little bit of pain with their pleasure.  And don’t forget your personal massager (AKA favourite vibrator) the most orgasmic massage of all!

You might think that bondage is all about stopping someone experiencing things but restraint can be sensual in itself. Think about the type of material used. Different types of rope give different sensations from soft cotton to scratchy coconut or you could use silk ties or chains for different sensations again.

Sensory deprivation.

When you can’t use one of your senses, others are heightened. So taking away someone’s sight by using a blindfold means they’ll feel the brush of your breath on their skin more keenly for example.

Noise-cancelling headphones are often used in sensual BDSM to take away the ability to hear. This takes away a lot of the clues a person might get about what’s coming next, especially if they can’t see you either. Heightening the impact of any action done to them as they listen to music, a recording of your voice or an erotic story.  

When there’s an element of surprise and suspense even the gentlest touch can feel electric.

How can I make my BDSM more sensual?

Take it slow – really take your time to arouse all the senses and appreciate how every action feels.

Add in more – So when you’re playing with something expected add a new sensation into the mix. Use a flogger as a tickler by spinning it over the skin instead of hitting or try a Grind Ring between you and your lover as you fuck for an extra level of stimulation.

Talk dirty – Add another dimension to your play by adding some raunchy word play into the mix. It doesn’t have to be poetry, just a few encouraging sentences or simple narration of what you’re doing can work well.

Enjoy engaging with all your senses with some sensational sensation play but remember to play it safe. Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) is the best kind of kink.

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