Sex Boundaries – What are they and how to talk about them.
When it comes to any sexual relationship we all have personal boundaries around the things we want/like to do and things we don’t want/like to do. Over times those things may change and evolve as we explore and experience different things but some of them will be firmly set in stone and are never to […]
BDSM relationships: What kinky relationships can teach everyone to do better.
What makes a relationship great is that it works for the people in it. BDSM relationships are no better or worse than vanilla or non kinky relationships but there are some over arching elements of BDSM relationships that centre around developing a positive and healthy dynamic between the people involved that many people could really […]
5 (slightly mad) stay at home Valentine’s day ideas
In fact the title should be 5 (slightly mad) stay at home Valentine’s day ideas for when you have been staying home all year but that seemed a bit wordy. It is the month of love, Valentines day is on Sunday and I am sure you have amazing dates planned with romance and love in […]
Which Type of Non-Monogamy is Right For You?
People often think of monogamy and non-monogamy as a binary choice – you’re either one or the other and there is no middle ground. But I prefer to think of both monogamy and non-monogamy as a spectrum, with tonnes of middle ground and grey areas to play around in. If you think you might be […]
7 Tips on How to Get Your Partner to Squirt
Ejaculation is usually associated with one of two things: a male penis or a racy porn scene. It’s time to break the stereotype and talk about vulva-owners and their wonderful ejaculating orifice! Don’t worry – female ejaculate, squirt, is not urine, entirely. Although still unclear, female ejaculate fluid has been demonstrated to contain urine, and […]
Consent is Sexy (and Necessary)
Did you know that 30th November is International Day of Consent? Of course, as a sex writer and educator I believe that EVERY day should be International Day of Consent! But just what is this consent thing all about anyway – and why is it so important that we talk about it? What is Consent? […]
5 ways to use butt plugs to spice things up
Do you have a butt plug but are short on ideas of how to use it? Well we have some suggestions for how you can use butt plugs to spice up your sex life. Everyone has a bum and whilst we acknowledge that anal play is not for everyone, either because of health issues (although […]
Necessary pre-fuck conversations (or ‘how to fuck someone with vaginismus’)
This week we are excited to welcome back Quinn Rhodes (Ze/hir/he/him) with the second in a two part series of posts about vaginismus. This time ze is talking about the conversations you should have with someone with vaginismus before you fuck them or as ze says in the title, how to fuck someone with vaginismus. […]
Ask A Stupid Question
We have all done it; wanted to ask a question but haven’t because in our head the question sounds so fucking stupid and so we were embarrassed to ask it out loud. If you’re like us, you then go somewhere quiet and google your ‘stupid question’ to find a million search results none of which […]
Sex Furniture: How To Use The Liberator Wedge
If you have ever though ‘I’d love some sex furniture’ then today is your luck day! Today we talking about how to use the Liberator Wedge; a foam wedge essentially that’s going to change your sex game! The Wedge Packaging Before we talk about the wedge from Liberator we have to talk about the packaging. […]